Zilli A Monte Carlo dating simulator

You live your love life once. Zilli runs it a zillion times.

Finding love isn’t always straightforward — explore all the possibilities.

Meeting your person can be a winding road and there’s no clear map for the path ahead. We all approach dating differently — whether it’s in the number of people we try to meet, the number of dates we go on, or how long we spend trying to make relationships work.

While the little decisions we make affect the shape our love lives take in the years ahead, it’s not always clear how the numbers pan out.

Based on your answers to a few questions, Zilli simulates your dating life forward one day at a time for 10 years, then does it again and again to show you the range of how things might play out. Stop guessing when it comes to love, let Zilli do the math for you.

This edition is circulating privately.

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The code is kept only in this browser, and sent only to the simulation service.

Your answers are used only to set up your simulation — the conversation itself isn’t stored.

Read it back before we run it. Every numeral below is editable — the simulation believes exactly what you tell it.

Where is this headed?

The pipeline ends at a goal. For this first edition, that goal is marriage — other endings come in a later printing.

What does your calendar hold?

The calendar is the scarce resource — every simulated relationship competes for these slots.

How do strangers become dates?

The top of the funnel: how often an opener goes anywhere, and how long a spark keeps without a plan.

How do the dates tend to go?

For each early date: the chance it leads to another, and what the evening costs you.

How long is the long game?

Past the third date the calendar stops being the story and time takes over. These chapters are measured in months.

How hard should we run the numbers?

Reading your futures…

The running estimate and its 95% band, drawn as futures accumulate — the baseline fills toward the total.

When will you find your person?

Each simulated decade either arrives or it doesn't. The curve is the share of futures that have arrived by each year; the shaded band is how sure this many simulations let us be.

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One future, up close

How spread out are the outcomes?

No single future is the forecast. These are the distributions across every simulated decade — time, money, and people met along the way.

Total spend per future

People met per future

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Where does the funnel narrow?

The average number of relationships, per simulated decade, that reached each stage. The scale is logarithmic — every big step down is a conversion worth a look.

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What if you don't get there?

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Interrogate your assumptions

Your decade, read back

The whole sitting in one closing chapter: what the numbers said, where they stick, what would move them — and a card to carry out.

I · The decade in numbers

II · Where it stalls

III · What would change it

IV · Keep the card

A pocket edition of the whole decade — clean, unwatermarked, and your odds stay off it unless you say otherwise.

Keep the card

A pocket edition of this page — your archetype, your destination, the shape of your curve. Your odds stay off it unless you choose otherwise.

Opening the almanac…